Growing up, many of us have experienced the pressure of being compared to other kids. It’s natural for parents to want the best for their children, but when that desire turns into constant comparison, it can hurt a child’s self-esteem and mental health. In my case, my parents constantly compared me to a kid in our area, thinking he was receiving a better upbringing than me. Little did they know, that kid was far from perfect.
It all started when my parents met his parents at a neighbourhood gathering. They were impressed by the kid’s academic achievements and extracurricular activities, and they couldn’t help but compare him to me. They started questioning my achievements and activities, wondering why I wasn’t doing as well as he was. As time went on, they would bring up his name in conversations, always praising him and making me feel inadequate.
But what my parents didn’t know was that the kid they thought was better was far from perfect. He may have had good grades and a long list of extracurricular activities, but he was also struggling with anxiety and depression. He was constantly under pressure to perform and meet his parents’ expectations, which left him feeling burnt out and overwhelmed. He was also dealing with social issues at school, which made him feel isolated and alone.
Meanwhile, I was happy with my own life. Sure, I wasn’t at the top of my class or involved in a dozen extracurricular activities, but I was content with the things I was doing. I had a close group of friends, I enjoyed playing sports, and I was passionate about writing. I didn’t feel the need to constantly compare myself to others, and I didn’t feel the pressure to be perfect.
It took some time, but eventually, my parents realized that the kid they thought was better wasn’t necessarily happier or more successful than me. They realized that they were putting unnecessary pressure on me and that they needed to focus on my strengths and passions, rather than comparing me to others.@That Kid My Parents Thought Was Better But…
The “golden child syndrome” is a real phenomenon that can harm both the favoured child and the unfavored child. Parents need to remember that every child is unique and has their strengths and weaknesses. Constantly comparing a child to others can hurt their self-esteem and mental health. Parents should focus on their child’s achievements and passions, rather than trying to mould them into someone else. And as for that kid my parents thought was better? He may have seemed perfect on the surface, but everyone has their struggles and challenges.
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